Oh yes, certainly. A whole book’s worth that will be published someday. That’s the day after soonday.
But on this occasion I’m going to share a little wisdom from another source found on Quora, with thanks and recognition to Farimah Fiddy.
I don’t do this often, but this site is about promulgating wisdom, and sometimes I choose to use examples of the many sources in which wisdom can be found.
In fact there’s a whole resource on this site for linking to sources of wisdom. It needs to be expanded, and I’ll tell you more about it in another blog.
Meantime, this was Farimah Fiddy’s response to the question:
What’s something you regret saying to or silently judging a parent for once you yourself became a parent?
How smug we all were once upon a time, walking around the grocery store or sitting in restaurants, childless. Shaking our judgy heads at parents with young children, witnessing tantrums or parent melt-downs with condescension. We were know-it-alls who knew nothing.
I will never lose my patience with my child. Of course you won’t. Because you’ve never been tetchy for no good reason in the past when you were childless, right? You’ve never snapped at your partner or a work colleague or a rep at a call centre. Naturally, if you were stuck at home all day with a cold, a rowdy dog, a messy house and a whiny five year-old, you’d be the Queen of cool.
I will never give in to my child. ‘No’ will mean ‘no.’ This might work beautifully when he’s one. But, when he becomes old enough to speak and reason, and he’s arguing with you on a level that makes you suspect he has passed the bar exam without telling you, you’ll say ‘Fine! Just have the damn cookie!’
I will never let my child talk back to me that way. Your child will do this at some point. It’s part of his development. He needs to exercise his muscles. When he reaches this stage, you can choose to shut him down immediately, or you can respect that if he isn’t occasionally allowed to voice himself with the people he feels safest with, then he won’t be able to voice himself with any authority figure for the rest of his life.
I will not let my child rely on devices. Devices will be your salvation more times than you can imagine. You will be thanking the Gods of technology, and you’ll wonder how your own parents ever managed to stay sane without them. You’ll also realise what a hypocrite you are every time you bury your own face in a device, needlessly.
CK again. There’s some pretty good wisdoms in that, nicely expressed.
You can get more from Farimah Fiddy by joining Quora and following her.
Here’s a link to that particular answer. Link.
CK follows a number of people on Quora and obtains a good cross section of wisdom and knowledge on different topics thereby.
Hope this helps